The Best Definition of Love is Stupidity…

   I woke up this morning with a missed call on my phone. I tried to go back to sleep but the phone was ringing again. I picked it up and heard a familiar voice. She asked me how I am? I replied I’m okay with a slight irritation in my voice. I was irked because she disturbed my lazy Sunday morning ritual of staying in bed for the rest of the morning.

   Then she said my name and the phone went silent. After a few seconds she spoke again my name and then again the dead stillness on the other end. I did not say anything but I knew from that point on that something was wrong.
   She said “MAY NANGYARI”.
   I closed my eyes trying to brace myself for the bad news and it was indeed news I don't want to hear.
   In the middle of her sentiments, she could no longer contain her emotions and she cried. It was not a sob of sadness but painful howl of a heart that bleeds.
   I was silent for the whole time, listening only to her story. She poured everything she felt as she retold how her partner cheated in front of her. A familiar scene which I shared a few years ago, the anger and pain which I repressed for the past years came back as fresh as I could remember. She asked me, WHY THEY DO THAT? I was stricken as she did not know I was also haunted by that same question. I was not able to answer.
   I thought she already asked the most difficult question but she threw the most unnerving one. Would she leave him or not?  I honestly said I do not know.

    My mind wanted to tell her to leave the guy because that’s what my experience told me so. Trust binds the relationship and once it breaks, it is hard to bring it back. A cheated partner will almost never make it through the second time around. There will always be doubts and insecurity that eats eventually the relationship. The hate and pain will never fade and will never be healed. It will be like a cancer that keeps coming back.
   Yet I was surprised with myself as I advised the other thing.

    I said let her heart decides. If she can find love and still feels his love in her heart..then stay.
   Do not compare one moment of mistake to a million happy moments he shared. One single temptation is too impractical  to break the relationship, which was built on a hundred little sacrifices.
   The strength of one’s love is measured not on how many times you make that person happy and satisfied but how much your heart endured the sacrifices and the painful bled. It is unfair, yes it will always be unfair but then again love is not about what you will received but what you have given amidst all the pain.
   KATANGAHAN at KAGAGUHAN Yun! Yes, the definition of love is stupidity. Those who used their minds to experience love never loved at all. People who truly falls in love, understands stupidity. We do not find reasons in love; we all become stupid when we fall. We let go of everything because only one thing is  real and tangible -  what you feel.
   The hurt and pain will change the person and will change the relationship. But how it affects and ends, is dependent on the people involved. In a relationship, one is weaker than the other. But what makes it lasts are not the wise and contemplated moves of the stronger partner but the sacrifices they made. Let others call it stupidity but only those who already fall in love recognized what it truly meant.